I am on a mission to finishing 2018 on a very strong note with my finances and life and wanted to share with you exactly what I’m doing to help me.
I’m working towards improving my mindset around money.
In personal development, there’s a concept that is incredibly important–
Our thoughts create our feelings.
Our feelings create our actions.
Our actions create our results.
Your results directly come from your thoughts. It’s important to get your mindset in check so that your results are amazing!
Here are the exact steps I’m taking to improve my self-esteem, thoughts, and perceptions of worth around money.
1. Get clear on your current mindset.
Is it a scarcity mindset or an abundant mindset?
Let’s break down the difference.
Scarcity mindset comes from a place of lack. If you’ve ever said to yourself, “it takes money to make money; everyone is doing well but me; I can’t seem to get ahead no matter what I try-” you might have a scarcity mindset.
Here’s the crazy thing. You might also have a scarcity mindset if you:
- are impulsive with money
- spend and never have enough for your financial goals
- struggle with being financially generous
- believe that situations are permanent rather than temporary
- fall more into the victim mentality and linger on why life has wronged you
- see a financially successful person and get jealous
- have a really hard time spending money or seem to blow through money
In working with hundreds of people who have a scarcity mindset, I find that a lot of people who carry large amounts of credit card debt tend to have a scarcity mindset. They subconsciously believe that they need to spend everything they have because they might not get the money again.
You wouldn’t think that excess spending comes from scarcity, but it 100% does.
Having an abundant mindset with money is drastically different. It’s a more mature outlook. When you honor your budget, respect your money, and truly believe there is more than enough to go around, you are starting to live in your life in abundance.
Someone with an abundant mindset doesn’t make rash decision with their money, they set a budget and stick to it- because they know that they have everything they need.
The biggest difference I’ve found between scarcity and abundance comes down to conscious contentment. When you actively choose to believe that there’s plenty to go around, money is easy to come by, and you’ll always be taken care of– you can start living a more purposeful life.
2. What’s your self talk?
I want you to keep a little notebook with you. And every time you start talking negatively to yourself, make a little mark on the notebook.
Then at the end of the day, look at how many times you talk down to yourself.
“I’ll never be successful; I’m such an idiot; I always mess up everything; I’ll never be rich; I’ll always be in debt.”
When I started tracking this, I was shocked! How on earth can I be so cruel to myself?
Repetition is key to changing habits, and I noticed that I was making snide comments to myself 15 times per day! Once you become aware of your self-talk, you can start to change it.
I’m going to get real weird for a second- but this works! I have named my negative self-talk Agatha.
Every time I start going down the path of negativity, I will immediately stop and say outloud if no-one is around– “Shut up Agatha!”
Then I follow-up with saying my mantra- “Good things happen to me all the time.”
No surprise, when your perspective shifts, you start to notice good things that happen to you. Little things like finding a penny on the ground, or someone holding the door open for you, become a much bigger deal simply because you are training yourself to notice the good.
3. Listen to how to judge others.
One of the biggest doses of reality I came across when it came to money mindsets is to pay attention to how you judge others. If you see someone successful with a life that you secretly envy– what do you say?
For most people, we say things like “the only reason they have a good financial life is because their spouse makes great money.” Or “I’d be doing great too if _______ ;” or even “Every rich person I’ve met had a terrible personal life.”
How you judge matters. When you say things that diminish, discredit, or just aren’t true about other people’s success, your subconscious is listening. You are inherently telling yourself, if I become rich, I will be like those other people and I don’t want that. So you start to slowly self-sabotage until you actually belief you aren’t worthy of money.
Whenever I hear people say they negative things about people who have found success, I feel so sad– that’s usually a good indicator that they need some mindset work.
Next time you judge someone, write down what you’re saying. That statement you made, shows up in our lives as our beliefs. So be careful about judging others– it says far more about you than we’d like to admit.
4. We live what has been modeled.
Unless you actively work on changing your beliefs and come across personal development, we tend to emulate what was modeled to us. If your parents struggled with money and you didn’t see any examples of people who had a healthy relationship with money, you’ll probably find yourself struggling as well. It’s not your fault entirely- but at some point in your life, accountability has to kick in and you get to choose what beliefs you carry forward.
I was sipping coffee with one of my friends and sharing how much I appreciated Jack Canfield’s teachings. He was incredibly successful with his career and I had mad respect for that. So I sent her a video and told her how awesome it was!
A few days later, she told me she watched the video and that it was good. But when she started to research him more, he might have made a lot of money, but his son, was interviewed saying how Jack was a jerk to him. She actually said, “I don’t want to make that much money if I have to ignore my kid.”
She made a bold assumption that the magnitude of money was the reason he had a poor relationship with his son.
Now think through this.
Would you want to become very wealthy if you believed that wealth would ruined your family relationships? Hell no you wouldn’t. But that’s not what happens, thankfully we have plenty of examples of people who are wealthy AND have phenomenal relationships with their family.
Find case studies, listen to podcasts, change your norm, but changing what habits are being modeled to you. It really is that simple, it just takes repetition and time.
Now that you have some ideas of how our money mindset shows up in our daily lives here are the specific steps you can take TODAY to start enhancing or changing your money mindset.
- Honestly assess when you have a scarcity mindset and when you have an abundant mindset (this is a tough one!)
- For the next week, grab a notebook and track how many times your self-talk is negative
- Think about wealthy people and write down your thoughts about them
- Take the negative beliefs you had about the wealthy person and find case studies (podcasts, blogs, biographies, documentaries, etc) that prove that’s an incorrect assumption
- Download the Calm meditation app and start going through the the 7 days of self-esteem training every night before bed
Do these steps for 1 solid week! I *promise* it will make a huge difference in the way you view money.
Week 2 is all about setting financial goals, so I’ll see you then. ????